What is an opinion?
This is how my Advanced English Dictionary defines it:
A personalbelief or judgment that is not founded on proof or certainty.
A message expressing a belief about something; the expression of a belief that is held with
confidence but not substantiated by positive knowledge orproof.
A belief or sentiment shared by most people.
Did you note the bold and italicized words/phrases? Good.
I know many of you might be wondering why I chose to write about this topic. Well, I have found out that many times in life, people have allowed themselves to be led astray because they took cognizance of other people’s opinion about them. I take for instance a girl who begins to live a life that doesn’t correspond with how her parents raised her: like doing drugs, prostituting, mixing with the wrong crowd - that encourage her to be this person that she has evolved to be. Being the parents, you sit and wonder, “Why?” “When?” “How?” You can’t figure it out.
Well, a clue…your daughter probably let the opinion of others run her down to the point that just to feel among, she had to come down to the level of her peers/friends to she can ‘fit in’.
Question is, does she have to fit in? Do you have to fit in? Do we all have to fit in? Whatever happened to being different…unique, special. What happened to standing out? I ask because this social menace has worked its way into the core of our society so much so that if you don’t take care, you will get to so carried away to the point where you lose yourself. And, guess what? It gers worse. That’s when depression sets in and before you know it, you want to kill yourself or transfer all that aggression and bitterness to your kids or other people.
About three years ago, a friend of mine introduced me to blogging. As soon as I started researching on it, I fell in love with the platform. I fell in love with the idea that I finally have a place to publish my articles, songs, poems, etc. I started signing up with different blogging platforms (simplesite, blogger, wordpress, etc). Lots of which I either closed or abandoned. However, the more I explored the blog world, the more I discovered, the more I wanted to learn and be part of what is happen going on in the virtual world. Now this is the kind of feeling or experience you have when you have a flair/passion/interest for something.
I discovered blogging is like singing, dancing, photography, teaching, being a doctor, a lawyer, etc. it is not a joke! It is not Facebook (links), instagram, tumblr, and all the conglomeration of social media. It is actually, in my terms ‘freelance journalism’! bloggers use the blog world to express their thoughts, passions and findings without the scrutiny of whoever is in charge of big media houses like CNN, BBC, E!, etc The people bloggers are careful of are the platform managers, of which most times, they do not make your life a living hell or try to dictate what exactly you should update and how you update it except it doesn’t fall within the perimeters of their terms and conditions. What am I saying then? I’m saying blogging is a profession! Bloggers actually invest lots of money into giving life to their websites, they pay fees, they scout for news, and they go out of their way to find or create catchy updates just so you will click on the link to their websites. I read from another full-time blogger that, every serious blogger needs to dedicate at least eight (8) hours a day to his/her website. Now tell me if that sounds like a joke!
So many people have tried to dissuade me from blogging. Some say stuff like, “Why don’t you get a job/” In one occasion, a friend blatantly told me that I won’t make it as a blogger. I felt sad and trembled a little bit, but on a second thought, I realized that people hardly support your vision until they begin to see the products of that vision. Especially when they forget that everything is not about money! It’s just like telling your parents (as an adolescence) you want to be a dancer or a musician, or an actress, etc. In my part of the world, your parents could arrange for a deliverance session for you if you ever come up with such aspirations. However, on the long run, when you start paying the bills via any of these professions, you become the "best" child in the home...a true son/daughter of the house. lols.
I want to reach out to people out there who are struggling to find their feet in a career. Keep doing what you’re doing so long as you’re not hurting yourself or others in the process. Do what makes you happy, because if you don’t…trust me or better still, ask around, nothing hurts like regrets.
THE SAME PEOPLE THAT LAUGHED AT YOU OR RIDICULED YOUR WORK WILL COME AND DINE WITH YOU IN DUE SEASON.
I won’t forget to mention the fact that, my blogger life is fun! it’s thrilling! its exciting! It gives me joy to take pictures, edit videos, write articles and upload them…it doesn’t matter if I get the highest followers or not, or if my friends click on it or not. I’m just happy doing what I love and know how to do best and I won’t apologize for it.
So to all the haters, keep hating or laughing while I have fun.
You can only become free when people's opinion have no effect on your choices.
Whatsoever you do, be it a job, a relationship or a lifestyle, if it doesn’t make you happy, let it go!